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Why do Women Make Me Their Therapist?
By Virilitas | September 29, 2008
(Freud's Sofa)
This past weekend, having not yet read this article about second dates, and bending my own rules about age and dating, I took a slightly older girl on a lunch date to a restaurant. To give some background, I have known this girl for a long time, and we had a great time on the first date.
I have always been respectful towards her, so I can only wonder why she began the date by telling me stories of her male friends who angered her by trying to put the moves on her. She then spent the rest of the date telling me about the “only two guys” that she is interested in. Needless to say, I am not on her list.
Why on earth did she say yes to going out with me one-on-one if she had no romantic interest in me whatsoever? Did she just want a free meal and a therapy session? It seems that my reward for being “such a good listener” (as many girls describe me) is to repeatedly get caught in the Therapist Zone, a place worse even than the Friend Zone.
I’m sure I’ll benefit from applying the advice in this article about how nice guys can stop finishing last, but has anyone else had this problem? Girls just love to go out with me… and talk about other guys. Any advice?
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October 2nd, 2008 at 23:27 pm
I can think of one way to stop it. Disagree. (It isn’t fun to have a therapist who keeps disagreeing with you.) And disagree in a way that makes it clear you’re one of those men she’s got a problem with.
She: “I can’t believe that guy was putting the moves on me again.”
You: “That’s what we do — guys, that is. Sure would be a shame if we all quit all of the sudden, wouldn’t it?”
She’ll see you in a new light for sure! (And so will you, I think!)
October 11th, 2008 at 19:34 pm
Brilliant idea.
October 15th, 2008 at 11:01 am
Oh, this is maddening. I can so relate. When girls would talk to me about other guys they liked, I was ready to put the car in drive and take them home. I have been happily married for the past 17 years to a great wife. Eventually, I found someone that liked my quality of being a great listener and she does the same for me. Keep at it. If this keeps up for you, maybe you should start charging $95 an hour for psychoanalysis.