Fools Rush in Where Angels Fear to Tread


When I think of rudeness, I think of employees at fast food restaurants, clerks at government facilities, and drivers in urban areas. And then I think of myself: abrasiveness with friends, neglect of thank you notes, late arrivals at gatherings.

We’re all rude, at times, but is there some common element amongst rudies that makes us to be so? Not that we can point to some environmental factor and absolve ourselves of all personal responsibility, but is there a common explanation?

Poverty, for example? Low-paying jobs? Geography?

I, for one, think that pace-of-life is a major factor. Hurry, hurry, hurry. How can we be polite to one another when we’re rushing, all the time? How can we be considerate if we act so quickly that we don’t have time to consider what ought to be considered before acting? We cannot, and therefore, we end up acting inconsiderately.

More than ever, we need to slow down. We need to think. We need to think before speaking. We need to think before acting. And we need to give others the time to think before reacting to us, recognizing that it may take them more or less time than we find convenient.

I haven’t posted in a while, but perhaps slowing down to write will remind me to take time to be polite.

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We are not Manly Enough


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There is something in a man that vehemently prompts him to consider whether he has the strength and aptitude to fulfill his duties and achieve his goals. Men may harden themselves to this prompting, as indeed they must, in the course of duty; they may distract themselves from it by pursuits, necessary and unnecessary; but the prompting remains a great source of male pain… and male progress.

It’s important for men to be challenged, because it helps them to grow; yet it is painful, particularly for the man who is both analytical and sensitive. To give all of the time, energy, effort and even emotion that you can to a career, a cause, a relationship, and yet to fail; to do your best to lead, and to know that your weaknesses Continue reading

The Value of the Phrase “Be a Man”


The phrase, “Be a man,” can be used in a lot of very appropriate and positive ways, rather than just the negative ones that people are cataloging on Twitter with #BeAMan. One very valuable thing that a good father does for his children is to challenge them.

Challenging someone makes him uncomfortable so that he will move from the complacency of comfort into the pain of growth. Hence, the phrase, “Be a man,” is in the same category as the phrase, “Get a job.”

Yes, becoming a man means hardening yourself in certain ways; yes, it means learning to put your emotions aside for the sake of those in your care; yes, it involves pain; but those sacrifices are necessary for the good of families and societies.

Have you tweeted critical remarks about the bad examples of manhood in “society” and in “the media”? How about getting off of the computer, limiting your children’s access to television/radio/internet, and actually spending time with your kids, showing them what healthy manhood looks like by your example?

There’s a worthy resolution for the new year.

Bob Costas Make-up Intervention


LipsBob Costas, this is an intervention:  we know that image is very important in your occupation, but so is respectability. You look like you are wearing almost as much make-up as the female sportscasters. The juxtaposition of your face with the faces of male athletes has become so odd that my buddies and I cannot take you seriously. We joke about your lipstick on a regular basis. Please tone it down. Please.

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